The US likes to think that we're progressive and equal and happy and perfect. As we all know, this is not true. Ask any minority.
Now, this post is about how we as a "progressive" society still, to this day, hold women at a lower level than men. There is still a difference in pay for men and woman (small, but still different), women are still in less positions of power than men hold, but also, women are blamed for more faults.
This is what I mean:
Why when the Chris Brown/Rihanna story JUST came out (that Chris beat the shit out of Rihanna and photos were leaked from the police reports), a very LARGE amount of people immediately started defending Christ Brown with statements like,
"But what did SHE do?"
"She probably deserved it."
and my personal favorite,
"If a woman was on me like that, I'd do the same thing!"
First off, when the story just broke, all we knew was Rihanna was badly, badly hurt and it was Chris Brown who doled out the beating. Nothing more. But I find it very interesting how many people were on Chris's side so immediately. Why is this? Why are we quick to demonize Rihanna, all 5' 8", 130 lbs of her, instead of listening to the police report that blames ADMITTED Chris Brown, all 6' 2", 180 lbs of him.
Then, when he goes and publicly admits this part in this terrible event, everyone is like, "Oh my gosh, we forgive you! How horrible this whole thing must be for you." WHAT?? No one was running to Rihanna with that reaction as ferociously as they were running to Chris Brown. I mean, I was actually listening to a morning radio show and the host was talking about the incident. He was RELATING to Chris Brown and how bad he felt for him. No mention of Rihanna. At All. This can't be right. It really can't.
Why are we blaming her? Why are we blaming her??? We do we take the man's side? I know someone whose husband cheated on her, so she divorced him, and her own FAMILY blamed her and was on his side through the whole thing. Now, you can say the family is demented, but how many people do you know who do this same type of thing: quick to place blame on the woman? It's more common than you think.
An interesting thought as well:
A blogged asked about this same incident - how would the public react if he beat Taylor Swift instead of Rihanna? Hmmm. .
By the way, for Chris & Rihanna's incident, the full police report was recently leaked, and here it is:
“Brown was driving a vehicle with Robyn F. as the front passenger on an unknown street in Los Angeles. Robyn F. picked up Brown’s cellular phone and observed a three-page text message from a woman who Brown had a previous sexual relationship with.